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Baldman_Sonetti
post May 24 2006, 09:02 PM
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At present there is something of a debate going on as to whether or not young adults and teenagers who are having an abortion should be required to have a parent informed prior to the operation. This was the stimulus for my thread, but is not the issue I wish to discuss. This is also not an issue of the morality of abortion.

What I wish to discuss is whether or not the father, regardless of age, should have the right to be consulted before the abortion.

I wish to make perfectly clear that I do not in any way advocate that a father should have more say than the mother in deciding the future of an unborn child. Rather what I think is important is that in involving the father, the couple can properly discuss the implications of aborting the foetus, and the alternatives available to them. I feel these conversations should take place under the supervision of a social worker or medical professional, primarily in order to ensure that the mother is not being coerced and secondarily to assess the mental impact on both parties and what stress it might place on their relationship, so that they can be fast-tracked into any appropriate counselling (or as the case may unfortunately sometimes be, protection) following the procedure.

I believe there are several advantages to a programme such as this. Firstly, the discussions between the potential parents may prevent the abortion altogther, and as a popular alternative adoption can provide babies for infertile couples, rather than expensive IVF treatment.
Secondly, forcing the couple to talk about the implications of having a baby may promote a more stable relationship and limit promiscuity, as couples are faced with the hard reality of having to accept the actions of their consequences together. Thirdly, it provides a means through which to identify cases of abuse, whether sexual, psychological or otherwise, through the monitored meetings and discussions, which might otherwise go unnoticed. Fourthly, it can alleviate or eliminate stress brought upon the potential mother who would have otherwise tried to keep the abortion a secret from their partner.

If not above these, then at least as important as these is that a father should know if his child has been aborted. For want of a far better comparison, it is similar to kidnapping. "What he doesn't know won't hurt him" is not a responsible line to take in matters of familial stability and this should no longer be an option, unless in special circumstances such as a relationship with an abusive partner.


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post May 25 2006, 05:46 PM
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If i ever have an abortion i would at least want to talk about it with the "father". Cause he needs to know about it because he might not want it.. so i think its important for the two parents to discuss it


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post May 25 2006, 06:01 PM
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QUOTE(DameDaSnipa @ May 25 2006, 03:43 PM) [snapback]1159797[/snapback]

If i ever have an abortion i would at least want to talk about it with the "father". Cause he needs to know about it because he might not want it.. so i think its important for the two parents to discuss it

eh, it's really only important for the female to know about unless the two previously agreed to having kids. If the two agreed not to have kids but were adamantly opposed to it, using two different kids of birth control then I see absolutely no harm in it being kept secret. The goal here should be preserving what relationships are currently in place while getting them to be more open. I'm not so certain such a controversial topic as abortion would really do it.

Of course there are other important reasons for the female to tell the male and that would be she may need his support.

Question - why do you think the potential father needs to know?


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- Baldman_Sonetti   Abortion - Father's Rights?   May 24 2006, 09:02 PM
- - Caliguy   Very well stated. This is an example of how topics...   May 25 2006, 01:49 AM
- - gingergenius   the mother should have the deciding say in things ...   May 25 2006, 05:48 AM
- - Handsome B. Wonderful   I agree the father should be notified, but like gi...   May 25 2006, 01:18 PM
- - Nec   Well, speaking as a mother (which I am), I absolut...   May 25 2006, 03:04 PM
- - MetGreDKo   QUOTE(Baldman_Sonetti @ May 24 2006, 06:5...   May 25 2006, 05:17 PM
|- - Nec   QUOTE(MetGreDKo @ May 25 2006, 03:14 PM) ...   May 25 2006, 07:16 PM
|- - MetGreDKo   QUOTE(Nec @ May 25 2006, 05:13 PM) 115990...   May 25 2006, 08:14 PM
|- - Nec   QUOTE(MetGreDKo @ May 25 2006, 06:11 PM) ...   May 25 2006, 09:03 PM
|- - MetGreDKo   QUOTE(Nec @ May 25 2006, 07:00 PM) 115998...   May 25 2006, 09:57 PM
|- - Nec   QUOTE(MetGreDKo @ May 25 2006, 07:54 PM) ...   May 26 2006, 01:20 AM
|- - MetGreDKo   QUOTE(Nec @ May 25 2006, 11:17 PM) 116005...   May 26 2006, 01:59 AM
|- - Nec   QUOTE(MetGreDKo @ May 25 2006, 11:56 PM) ...   May 26 2006, 03:39 AM
|- - MetGreDKo   QUOTE(Nec @ May 26 2006, 01:36 AM) 116009...   May 26 2006, 03:46 PM
|- - Nec   QUOTE(MetGreDKo @ May 26 2006, 01:43 PM) ...   May 27 2006, 04:30 PM
|- - MetGreDKo   QUOTE(Nec @ May 27 2006, 02:27 PM) 116105...   May 28 2006, 01:24 AM
- - DameDaSnipa   If i ever have an abortion i would at least want t...   May 25 2006, 05:46 PM
- - MetGreDKo   QUOTE(DameDaSnipa @ May 25 2006, 03:43 PM...   May 25 2006, 06:01 PM


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