Yeah, this is probably a bit too heavy for most of you Asylum dwellers, but I fancied getting it off my chest somewhere private. If you can even call this place private with a few thousand visitors a day. But anyway...
Basically I was with my girlfriend for 3 years, then we split up because we both kept having arguments and it wasn't working out. It was a mutual break up sort of thing, but then we still remained friends and were very close, pretty much seeing each other as we would if we were in a relationship.
But even though we were both technically single, we both felt like we were in a relationship and didn't try to get with anyone else or anything. But we still had a few arguments which made me think it wasn't going to work out, so I ended up finding someone else.
So I told my ex that I'd basically found someone else, and I was expecting her to be like "oh well, I'll find someone too", but she couldn't cos she still really liked me. But she stopped speaking to me after I got with someone else cos she couldn't bear the thought of me being with a different girl.
So anyway I've been with this other girl for close to a month now, and everything's gone really well. She's a nice girl, we get on really well and I have a good time with her. Plus all of her mates are cool too. But I still have feelings for my ex, so I emailed her to tell her that basically this new girl was just something I needed as a break from her, to see if my feelings came back or whatever. And I think they have.
So anyway I find out that my ex still REALLY likes me, a lot. And I still like her a lot too, but this new girl has done nothing wrong and I find it extremely hard to break up with someone who hasn't done anything wrong to me. I have a good time every time I'm with her.
You'd think it's a good situation to be in, having 2 girls wanting to be with you, but it fucking sucks. I don't really want to break up with my new girl because she doesn't deserve to be hurt, and she likes me a lot. But at the same time, I still have strong feelings for my ex, and she's getting hurt all of the time I'm not with her.
So I dunno what to do. I've told my ex I need time to decide what is best for me but I'm literally stuck 50/50 between both of them.
Advice? There's probably not many people been in this situation, but I'm just completely stuck and it sucks.
Oh yeah, and I'm not a completely shallow person, so looks don't factor into it completely for me, but they're both attractive girls...
Current GF (on the right)
But yeah, looks aren't a major factor. I know my ex is probably better looking but it was the arguments we had and stuff that spoiled that relationship. But I think we both think things would be better this time...
Anyway, advice me up, you cocks.